Battling our parents in a partner

Many people struggling with relationships are aware that they benefitted from seeking help a long time ago, but they do not know that they need help.

This is because they believe they are doing well. They have good jobs, make decent money. However, they are also aware that they feel as if they have two lives.

They are respected at work,do a great job, get along well in their work environment. They give others advice and act like a responsible grown up.

When they get home,life becomes very different. One failed relationship after another. Disastrous as each previous one. A long unhealthy relationship. Unable to get their life together Scared no one will want them.

They might attach to people with wild behaviours, people who are inconsistent. They marry hoping it will improve the dynamic and their lives.

They feel flattered when someone wants them following a break up. They end up with people who might blame them for problems in the relationship.

Due to a loneliness they believe can be cured by a man or woman. Someone who can turn their life the way they want it. They want to find someone who is good to them. Not knowing they have to become that person first.

Through challenges with men in relationships , a woman can start to be unintentionally abusive towards her child. Or with women in relationships, a man can start to ignore his children. Women will complain endlessly about their problems with men to Friends or in groups. Men might suffer in silence. Tired friends can start avoiding her.

He or she believes each man or women she meets next is the one. Terrified to be alone, he or she uses money, sex or anything available to try and keep the new partner. Believing himself or herself to be unlucky, this person is unaware of how unmet needs trap him or her into relationship disasters.

What to look out for

1. It is worth exploring physical sensations that might present as a result of this person's problems. Some people become physically ill with different conditions due to stress of unhealthy relationships.

2. They can even take time off from work due to an inability to cope.

3. Children can experience behaviour problems at home and at school. The children fight each other constantly at home.

4. The person in this picture might abuse substances or alcohol.

5. However, none of these problems will trouble this person as much as wanting a relationship..If you ask them,they might up to now have been with a man or woman since they began dating.

For a woman who had problems with her father, she continues to battle every man she encounters. Same as a man and his mother, to women he encounters.

When out of a relationship, they are either trying to reconnect with an ex, or find a replacement.

These people need to heal the inner child. To stay single for a period. To join support groups. To ask for help.