Are you in an Eight of Swords situation?

Are you in an Eight of Swords situation?

Many of us believe ourselves to be trapped, imprisoned and restricted, yet it is mainly due to self-imposed restrictions and victim mentality.

We are blindfolded and our hands are bound, yet our legs are not tied and the door is open.

We have self-limiting beliefs. We are governed and restricted by inner critic. It is mindset that prevents us from moving forward. Having unbound feet means we can move about and see how restricted or unrestricted we are. We only need to open up to new or different perspectives. To move towards the open doorway and get out.

Basically, what keeps us in challenging dynamics is trauma and conditioning. What we learnt to do as young children leads us to believe we cannot leave difficult relationships due to;

1. Children...Yet children need more than two parents. They need the stability of that relationship and to see their parents genuinely love each other.

2. Finances...Through fear of poverty, we hang on, and sometimes to end up in the worse poverty of chaos and lack of peacefulness.

3. Scarcity mindset. Through fear of believing we will not meet someone else, we might hang on and stay unhappy. Yet, there are plenty of fish in the sea. And crocodiles as well. Or sharks. Swim with the sharks if you must!

4. Low self-worth Attaching to outcomes and attaching a person to our goals, we might end up putting a lover on a pedestal and putting less importance in our sense of self.

5. Revenge We might feel that nobody should have our partner. We therefore believe we are staying to punish the partner. Yet, we stay and punish ourselves.

6. Too late, too old. We might believe that there is nowhere else to go and that it is too late. We can also become so used to the suffering and have a fear of change. As long as we are alive it is not too late to change our lives at any stage.

7. Hope We might believe they will change because of the effort we keep making to help the relationship.

Remember, only you are keeping you in this situation. Only you can take the steps to get out. Unless they leave you of course. It does not have to be that way. You can leave out of love and compassion for yourself. You only need to start thinking differently and to take those small steps towards the open area.