Appreciation are the highest form of love

We introduced Love on three levels. This concept is based on the observation that we are individuals, born in the community with other people, and thrive through the contribution of self and others.

First Level

In which we are resourceful and contribute to our wellbeing as individuals.

Foremost we appreciate the gift of life. As a show for that gratefulness, we treat ourselves as if we appreciate what we have.

We observe and appreciate our bodies, and how they keep us in form. We look after ourselves with love and compassion. We can equally appreciate our strengths that keep us going on a daily basis. We also need to appreciate the weaknesses we observe in ourselves. Weaknesses provide us with a purpose to fulfil and to remind us to keep ourselves in check and avoid self-betrayal.

Self-work including self-appreciation as acts of self-love, contribute to a strong self-connection.

We can learn resourcefulness and be grateful for the resources we access within and without. When we appreciate ourselves, we treat ourselves like people we love.

Second level

We are born in families, and thrive in communities such as work, romance, friendships and therapeutic relationships.

We give and receive love, and practice life and relationships within these inner circles.

All our relationships thrive on appreciation. Appreciation is a form of feedback.

To show that we appreciate our immediate circle, we do something to show them how much they matter. Appreciation fortifies relationships including our romantic relationships.

Appreciation notices what the other person is doing for us, and expresses joy in their choosing to do it. Appreciation comes with a clear understanding that nobody owes anybody anything, even in any of these relationships. Only parents owe children a healthy upbringing.

One attitude that opposes appreciation is entitlement. With expectations of what things need to look like and how someone needs to behave, we kill the very thing we love.

Make sure you appreciate your relationships and treat them as such. If you cannot express appreciation for what your partner is doing, it can feel challenging for them to do more. It means they cannot make you happy.

The third level

As we live and breathe we owe. Each day we live, the debt increases.

We therefore need to express appreciation for life. Appreciation for what strangers have contributed in our lives. We are all links in a chain. Someone somewhere , through paid or unpaid work, through duty or kindness, is doing something that contributes to our wellbeing.

We owe the greater good and we can also share whatever we have to spare to others. We are not owed, but we owe. Talents, gifts or possessions. We give with five languages, and sometimes or rarely hear a "thank you!"

However, the joy of knowing that someone has been able to make use of what we shared is satisfying.

My gratitude

I express and extend my gratitude to the women in this community who take their own time to add members and to keep the group safe, to share resources, support others and make recommendations.

I extend my appreciation, to everyone who sees, hears and acknowledges what they find helpful.

To everyone who has crossed my path.

Above all, I am grateful for life and the body that houses my soul, the breathe that it continues to experience and the love I can access in times of need. I have gratitude because I live.

I hope you use this community as practising ground for your relationships and for life too.

As you heal, so do I!