Accept what you see, not what you want things to be.

See things and a partner for what and who they are, but do not dwell on it. Do not let this consume your life. Take it as information that can help you to decide what is best for you.

You might be stuck in an unhealthy relationship or unhealthy pattern of relating because you are in denial about the unhealthy attachment.

You might make excuses about his or her bad behaviour.

You probably desperately need to see things working out and both of you in a healthy relationship.

You might walk on eggshells hoping that he or she will accept you as a person who does not like conflict.

You might play happy families in public , yet things are dire and you are not even half intimate in private.

You might despise his or her behaviour, but for the sake of society you hold on.

You might keep begging him or her to change.

Yet, if you see things for what they are, you can look after yourself.

It takes two to create a healthy or unhealthy relationship. You can look into why you are in this dynamic.

Observe how you might be contributing to the unhealthy dynamic.

You can choose how you show up, and also learn to express yourself in a healthy way.

You can heal for your relationships and choose what feels good.

You might end up creating authentic happy families if you learn to detach and work on yourself.

You can let go if you feel that you have done your best and nothing is changing.

Remember, your best is not to force outcomes.

To over function and fix.

To beg them to change.

Your best is to improve your self-relationship. Once you are able to relate with yourself with compassion, respect and self-trust, you can also apply that in your relationship.

In that state, you are in a position to choose what is best for you in any relationship.